Showing posts with label Sandeep. Show all posts
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Friday, October 03, 2014

Perspective on Good and Evil - what is right?

Today is Vijaya Dashmi. It is celebrated by Hindus across the world for various reasons – to celebrate Lord Rama’s victory over the Asura Raavan, and for the victory of Goddess Durga over the demon, Mahishasura. The moral behind all the tales and stories swirling around this day is that it is a day to celebrate victory of good over evil.

So what really is evil and what is good. Why do we really need comparisons or choices like the good and evil?

When we were kids, my paternal grandmother used to tell us that good and evil are two sides of the same coin. She said that what was considered good by one person, could be considered evil by another. Then I recently read a trilogy on life of Shiva, which said the same thing. It is only a matter of one's perspective. The book went on to say that everything must remain in a limited quantity and too much of anything becomes bad. The same applies for good too – too much of good will start to become bad for the society and will start an evil trend. So the right balance has to be maintained. The author of the trilogy goes on to quote the Vedas and says that as long as good and the so called evil are balanced, life continues in harmony. It is only when one side starts dominating the other that the problem starts and if there is no amicable solution, the only way to resolve the conflict is by a dharma war. And as my grandmother said, and as I read in the trilogy mentioned above, there are good people on both sides of the war and even the losers have good people.

Until a few months back, I always thought that Ravana was either an Asura / demon (Rakshasa). I believed that he was a Kshatriya, and Rama was a Brahmin. Then I happened to attend a GITPRO event in 2013, where Dr. Subramanyam Swami was the keynote speaker, and he mentioned that Ravana was actually a Brahmin and Rama was a Kshatriya.  Ravana is often depicted as the evil demon, whereas in reality, he was a very learned man. He was a follower of Shiva, a great scholar, a capable ruler and a maestro of the veena, but someone who wished to overpower the devas. His ten heads represents that his knowledge of the six shastras and the four Vedas.  He was the half brother of Kubera, the god of wealth. His problems started when he let his ego take over his righteous side, and kidnapped the wife of Rama who was roaming in the jungle with his wife and brother. Ravana refused to listen to the advice of his advisers, which included his learned father, ministers, brother and wife. He let the evil get heavier on his good side, and as a result we had the war against Lanka in which Ravana and his army was destroyed.


The same scenario has been repeated several times in history. In my humble opinion, the bottom line is that we need to maintain a balance between good and the so called evil , so that they can co-exist. Live and let live – that my friends, is the way life was meant to be lived and we should all learn that. Look for the good in everything and everyone, and stop trying to force others to live your way. Understand why people do what they are doing, and we could all live happily as was intended to be. Cheers!!

Tuesday, February 04, 2014

Leadership traits that separate real leaders from ordinary men....

Sometime back, while making a presentation to some young people about leadership traits and what I had done for my career growth, someone asked me what was the sign of a great leader? I know I am nothing like what a great leader should be - I am a very ordinary guy, who can easily be part of a crowd where probably nobody would ever notice me a second time, but this question was very generic, so I thought about it for a few seconds; and gave a very stockpile answer about what the leader does or should do, how he can be a team player and take strategic decisions and not tactical ones, … you get the drift. The attendees took notes, and seemed happy – but I was intrigued.  There had to be more that separated leaders from ordinary men. What did Shackleton do?  What made Sam Manekshaw a great leader? What about Churchill, or Alexander or Gandhi? What makes a real leader? 

Then I remembered a poem that my mother had read to me a long time back – and I thought this would apply to any good leader, irrespective of age or sex of the person. I like to think that I have grown keeping this as my goal, and if I can show even half of these traits, I will consider myself to have been a successful leader.

So here is the Poem If, penned by one of my favorite writers – Rudyard Kipling


If you can keep your head when all about you   
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,   
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, 
    But make allowance for their doubting too;   
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, 
    Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, 
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, 
    And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise: 

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;   
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;   
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster 
    And treat those two impostors just the same;   
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken 
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, 
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken, 
    And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools: 

If you can make one heap of all your winnings 
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss, 
And lose, and start again at your beginnings 
    And never breathe a word about your loss; 
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew 
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,   
And so hold on when there is nothing in you 
    Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’ 

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,   
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch, 
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you, 
    If all men count with you, but none too much; 
If you can fill the unforgiving minute 
    With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,   
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,   
    And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!


Saturday, October 13, 2012

A feeling of success

Back in 2000, when I told my relatives and friends that I planned to move to USA, many of them expressed concerns about taking my daughters with me. “You guys will lose your touch with the Indian culture”, or “forget about the Indian values and ethics” were the most common concerns voiced openly by many of my pals. Of course, they were happy for me and the opportunity I was getting, but they were also concerned how I’d bring up my daughters in the "wild" western world.

To be honest, I was equally concerned too. I had heard quite a few wild tales about the western culture, how people especially teenagers lost out on their culture, values and the like. Indians, like folks from most other countries, only delved on what was presented in the movies. One commonly saw depictions of the “modern” society in the west and how all the depravity of materialism crept in. So, with a lot of apprehension, I landed in the US in Nov. of 2000. I still remember the girls – all of 9 years and 8 years old, shivering in the freezing air of San Francisco, waiting for the airport shuttle to come pick us up at the SFO International terminal. Somehow, I just knew that with the blessings of my elders and the affections of my friends, we’d all be fine.
My american life started with me leaving for work at 6.30 AM, after lighting a lamp in front of the shrine I created at home, and sitting in front of the gods with hands folded, eyes shut, murmuring my prayers and seeking their blessings. I returned home around 6 PM after a long day, working hard to prove myself in this new work place. My wife was a stay at home mom for about 2 years initially. She developed a lot of contacts with other families. There weren’t a lot of Indians in San Ramon back then, so we were lucky to get into a network of Indian families – all thanks to Nandita’s networking capabilities. Then in 2001, we heard about the Hindu Sangam, which was the first attempt to bring the Bay Area Indians together under the Umbrella of Hindu Swayamsewak Sangh (HSS), and they had a massive event planned in Milpitas, with Anup Jalota performing Bhajans. My daughters participated in the Ramayana play, performed by the kids from all over the Bay area. The event got all of us hooked into the local chapter of the Hindu Shakha, called as Chanakya Shakha (Shakha means branch of a tree).

I firmly believe that Shakha has been a huge help in keeping my girls firmly engaged in the activities of the Hindu community and learning about the Indian culture and values. It is free for attendees and they conduct yoga, teach Sanskrit Shlokas, and bring in subject-matter-experts to give discourses called as bouddhik (intelligent discussions). They organize events and get together to celebrate Hindu functions and festivals like Ganesh utsav, Diwali, Sankranti, India’s independence and republic days, Guru Parab (when students felicitate a teacher of their choice), Pongal and many more.  I watched as my wife and daughters got involved in the Shakha by helping plan the events, often taking part in the plays, or skits or just being the compere. They picked up the leadership skills required to control a crowd of 100-200 people. I was impressed when Shivangi, my elder daughter, facilitated a planning meeting with extreme efficiency, zero nonsense and kept nudging the participants to the topic under discussion – something I rarely see in many business meetings. And I was honestly surprised by the genuine interest both girls showed in participating in the Shakha activities. They attended their camps, both mini and the annual Sangh Shiksha Varg with enthusiasm; they built close friendships with kids from other shakhas; and were looked up to as leaders and idols by younger kids.
 
Switch forward to 2012. Shivangi turned twenty one years old in Sept. We wanted to do something for the occasion and the girls surprised my wife and I by wanting us to do a Satya Narayan katha at home. I thought they probably meant that we organize a katha and they’d sit in it on the side as attendees, while my wife and I did the pooja. No sir – they wanted to do it themselves. I wasn’t sure if the priest would consider the girls doing the pooja, so I called my regular priest and asked him about it – to my surprise he agreed to let the girls lead us in the prayer. Another surprise was in store, when both of them dressed up in Saris (see picture above) and sat patiently through the entire prayer ceremony, doing all the rituals with full concentration and dedication. The priest was delighted and said he hadn’t seen that in recent years amongst kids of that age. Needless to say that Nandita and I were thrilled.

Then just last week, Neha – my younger daughter who is studying in Saint Mary's college, a Catholic, Lasallian, liberal arts college, rooted in the life and work of Saint John Baptist de La Salle (founder of the Christian Brothers and the patron saint of teachers) – told me that her class was going to visit the Hindu temple in Livermore. Now, though her major is Biochemistry, one of her subjects is Religions of India, which she wanted to study as she thought it would help her learn more about India. I asked if I could tag along to the temple, and she agreed. So, on a Wednesday evening she and her friend, Heather, stopped by to quickly change into Indian clothes, and off we went to the temple. I promised to stay out of their way and do my own thing while they moved along with their class led by Professor Norris. Along the way to the temple, it was such a pleasure hearing Heather and Neha talk about Gita and Indian religions like Hinduism, Jainism, Buddhism and Islam. Even more pleasant was the way Neha conducted herself in the temple. She was the only Hindu girl in the group of students (probably about 50 kids), and she held her own there by doing everything the way it should be done in a temple. She’d enter the deity’s sanctum with her right foot, touch the feet of the idol, come out and do a parikrama and then apply the holy vermillion to her forehead. I got to see all that from a distance as I sat in a corner meditating. Her professor later told me that he was leading a group of 40 students to a tour of Indian Holy cities in January, including a trip to the Holy Prayag (I was surprised that he used that instead of commonly used Allahabad) Kumbha which happens once every 12 years and draws millions of people.
 
Seeing all this, I think I haven’t done too badly in bringing up my kids. Based on what I have seen during my recent trips to India, I feel people outside India are more Indian than many Indians back in India – who unfortunately tend to copy what the movies depict as the real American life, which is a lot different in reality. In our case, the credit goes to my wife, the volunteers in the Shakhas here (who have worked hard to keep the Hindu culture alive in US) and to our friends here who have kept us grounded to our values and culture.

I like to think I have been successful in one of my goals in life at least. Hopefully, my kids will be successful in their careers and life in general too. And above all, I pray that they become good human beings.

Saturday, December 31, 2011

2011 – Is it already over?

I thought 2010 went by fast, but to say that 2011 went by faster would be an understatement. A lot happened this year too, and since OCCUPY was the biggest word in the world events, our world was occupied by several ongoing things.

We continued reconnecting and connecting with friends and colleagues, thanks to the social media sites. It is hard to believe that the world has shrunk so much. One can literally see the person on the other side, and not just talk to them anymore. I am guessing holographic communication must be just around the corner.

People we lost in 2011
Nandita bid her final good byes to her mother, who succumbed to old age. Aai, who was nearly 86 years old, was a very remarkable lady indeed and led a full life. We had the fortune of having her spend 6 months with us in 2001 in the US, and she wrote a few pages about herself. I am using those to prepare a write up about her life, which I think is worth making into an inspirational movie.

I lost my very dear friend, Jayesh, who was my childhood buddy. I wrote about it in my previous blog (read about it here).

And of course, though I never met him, I felt sorry to see Steve Job go. Not my idol, but someone I admired for what he had achieved, and for what he sought to achieve. A remarkable man, and a remarkable visionary. If only every entrepreneur was like him (and that could never happen)!

Other noted Indian Celebrities that were lost this year include noted Gazal Singer Jagjeet Singh, Bhupen Hazarika, and the evergreen actor Dev Anand. Each of these made tremendous contribution to the Indian Entertainment world.

Major events in 2011 that made headlines, and caught my attention:

  • Killing of Osama Bin Laden by Navy Seals
  • Killing of M. Gaddafi of Libya by a mob
  • Occupy movement made headlines all over the world.
  • Bank Of America issued plans to charge a fees and then withdrew it
  • Arab Spring
  • Earthquake and the Tsunami that followed it cause severe damage in Japan
  • Scientists claim discovery of God Particle.
  • Sarah Palin and Michele Bachman decide to stand united for the US President Elections (ok, I made this one up as a joke).

The Kids

We only need to look at our daughters to realize that time really does fly. Shivangi turned 20 years old while Neha turned 19. Wow!! 20 and 19!! Has it already been that long since I held them in my hands outside the OR’s in the hospitals in Indore?

Shivangi is now a senior at Mills College, as part of her three year dual degree program. She completes her BA in Math from Mills in 2012 and will go to USC, to complete her Industrial Engineering in another 2 years. It is such a pleasure to see her talk to people now. She likes to sit with elders and can easily hold her own in a discussion. She and I flew in to LA to visit USC, and it was a great fun trip for both of us. She has continued to be very actively involved in the local chapter of the Hindu Group (called as shakha), and is now the district coordinator (Nagar Bal Pramukh Karyavahika) for the Chapters of Contra Costa County. She also drove on her own to LA and later to San Luis Obispo, as well as to Davis and Sacramento.

Neha, turned 19 on the last day of the year. She is now a sophomore in St. Mary’s college. She will major in Bio-chemistry, and is thinking about a career in medicine, genetics or pharmacology. She also continues to be involved in the local Hindu chapter and helps in running its daily activities. She moved back home from the dorm this year, and has been commuting from home. She has started opening up in her conversations and it is a pleasure to talk to her, with her detailed insight into several subjects. She continues to be the techie of the family, and loves new gadgets. Often, she can be seen helping Nandita and Shivangi (and sometime even me) with something on our phones.

Nandita and I

Nandita and I turned into the other side of 40s. We have been married for 24 years now, and have known each other a lot longer (since 1981 -- you can read about that here). It still feels like it was only yesterday that I met her and I am just happy that we have been lucky. I’d do it again in a flash, if I had to.

Our new home, where we moved in last year in Aug has had a lot of visitors. We had friends and family visit us this year. Sinhas (Mahesh, Rani and Ameya) visited us in the summers. Sharmila Dey and her husband, Dr. Alvin Sewell spent a few days with us. Rucha, Nandita’s niece, spent her winter break with us (she is doing her masters in Arizona). Also visiting us this year were our very good friends, Alica and Jeff Sandoval, with their daughter Gabby; as well as another of Nandita’s nephew Abhijit with his family. We consider ourselves very fortunate that we have been blessed with friends and family, who feel comfortable spending time with us and consider it our honor to open up our homes to them.

Our jobs

I have continued to work at the Bank Of America in the eCommerce team as a Sr. VP and am responsible for the delivery of projects. Just the other day I was looking at the work done by my team, and the numbers were mindboggling. One of my teams is the Small Projects team – and it had close to 80,000 hours of work this year with zero defects in production. Of the 65 applications that I own, many are changing the architecture to the new state of the art technology. The three initiative teams did a fabulous job again this year (over 150K hours of work), and barring for one project that stumbled due to multiple failures, everything went like well oiled machine. I am in the process of implementing some more changes that will hopefully make things even smoother and introduce the concept of agile development to the Bank.

Nandita has continued to work as a Director in the Clinical and Technical Affairs at Coagusense. The small startup company, based in Fremont company’s product was approved by FDA and the future looks bright as orders have started coming in. I had the pleasure of meeting her CEO, and they seem to be moving in the right direction.

I also helped a neighbor and close friend with a project that he was stuck on for nearly 5 years. JP, my friend, is a graduate from IIT Delhi and IIM, Ahmadabad. It turned out that his Mother on law, and my mother were childhood friends and neighbors in Roorkee, India. Anyway, he had been working on a great product but somehow got stuck in the long-winded process. I promised to help him get the Proof of concept completed, and he is now working with investors to get the product launched. See http://redbaton.net for more details, if you are interested.

The travels

I traveled to Charlotte, NC (about 6 times) on business trips. Nandita and I traveled to Boston this year, and Shivangi traveled with me to Los Angeles.

Nandita traveled to Chicago, Iowa, Michigan, Nashville, Jackson (TN), Tupelo (birthplace of Elvis in Mississippi), Vancouver (WA), Eugene (OR), Idaho, Baton Rouge (LA). Her trips are shorter and more for trials or training of a new customer.

Nandita, Shivangi and Neha also traveled with Rucha, Nandita’s niece, for a trip of Los Angeles. They visited a lot of cool spots there.

Nandita also traveled to India to attend the last rites of her mother.

Activities

The geek in me continues to strive to learn things on my own. This year, I sought to learn a few techie things like Jooma, Drupal, wanted to write a basic app in Android and iOS. I was able to complete all these, though I wish I had more time to try out a few more things in each one. I also bought a Casio CK220 keyboard and want to record some old Hindi tunes. On top of my to-do list is to play/record/share a few of my old high school prayers. I am also hoping to get to become a decent Ukulele player, and I really want to get my hands on a sitar again.

I have also been very active as the coordinator for the Contra Costa Chapter of Global Indian Technology Professionals (GITPRO). The organization is still nascent, but already has chapters all over the world. We had 10 monthly events this year in our chapter that covered various topics like preparing for an interview, planning your career, Financial and Tax Management, Cloud Technology, Innovation, and Legal aspects of starting your own Venture etc. There is a lot more planned for this in 2012. Check it out here.

We all contributed time towards the Sewa project. That is the least we can do to contribute towards the society and community here in the US. If you are not aware, the Sewa project feeds the homeless in the People’s park every third Saturday. Volunteers from the San Ramon Hindu Shakha gather together to prepare lunch packets, that are then hand delivered to the homeless that reside in people’s park. This year, we contributed towards this at the time of my dad’s birthday/death anniversary.

Nandita continues to be involved with her writer’s club. The ladies in this club meet once a month on a Friday evening at someone’s home and read the write-ups that they have prepared. I will be posting some of these on her blog soon. She is also actively involved in the Bay Area Hindu Group, and after handling the role of Women’s Lead, she is now the Chairwoman of the local San Ramon chapter. She manages all these activities along with her job as a Director of Clinical and Technical Affairs in a medical device company. She makes effort to stay connected with her High School friends with whom she has connected after nearly 30 years and is panning a reunion for those living in US in 2012.

This year I had also initiated a plan to have a reunion of sorts of my batch-mates from my Engineering college days. We had all planned to meet in Pune, India this year in December. Unfortunately; I had to drop out at the last minute due to some personal issues. However, other people (Samir Mokashi, Monica Baser Tapadia, and Varsha Karandikar deserve special mention) stepped up to the plate, picked up the ball and planned a great event. I saw the snaps recently, and it looked like everyone that attended had a lot of fun.

On the family side, my mother is doing fine in Indore. A recent CT scan revealed that she has a grown node in her chest and some more tests are being done to identify the nature of the growth A fine needle biopsy is planned for the first week of January, and will help plan the details of the next plan of action. I am praying that nothing abnormal is detected and she continues to lead her active life style.

TV shows and Movies we saw

  •   Some mentionable English movies we saw – Mission Impossible 4 – Ghost protocol, Sherlock Holmes 2 – the game of Shadows, The girl with the Dragon Tattoo (the original series – all 3 movies), Captain America, Harry Potter – Deathly Hallows 2, The Lincoln Lawyer, The Green Hornet, The Social Network.
  • Hindi Movies –some old Hindi movies that we saw (and recommend) – Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara, Dhobhi Ghaat, Guzaarish 
  • TV Serials we followed – House MD, Covert Affairs, Rizzolli and Isles, Bones, NCIS, Big Bang Theory, The Mentalist, Person Of Interest, and Necessary Roughness.


Events we celebrated – India’s world Cup Cricket Victory. 

Some good Books we read

The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, The Girl that Kicked the hornet’s nest, The girl who played with Fire, A few of Patricia Cornwell’s, Saving Fish from Drowning, and Many more. 

Friday, August 19, 2011

Remembering my childhood buddy – Jayesh Somaiya



I recently lost my childhood friend Jayesh Somaiya. It came as a huge shocker – totally out of the blue when Mahipat sent me a message on Facebook and broke the news that he had passed away a week earlier due to multiple organ failure resulting from heart issues, complicated further by excessive weight and heavy smoking.

Jayesh and I studied together from fourth grade until the twelfth. His elder brother Girin was a few years my senior, and Paras, his younger brother was a few years my junior. Two of his cousins, Atul and  Bhushan, also studied in DC. He was always smiling, laughing, and being jovial. I never remember seeing him getting upset or hassled about anything. Never a great guy in studies, he was always a good friend. Teachers often got angry at him for creating ruckus in the class. In fact, Mr. Bawa, our English teacher, used his name in one of the class English plays to evoke laughter from the crowd. He lived in Palasia back then, and I’d often stop by his place when riding my bicycle  back from that area. We’d sit in his patio and gossip, and sometimes his dad would join us and would share jokes and life events. The Somaiya family owned a couple of petrol pumps and transport business.  

Around the time we were in 8th or 9th grade, we started to learn swimming at the Kamala Nehru Park Swimming pool. In the summer vacations, Sandeep Dalal, Sandeep Kolatkar, Sarvesh Garg, Jayesh and I would meet at the pool around 3 PM. My sister and I were learning how to swim back then. Jayesh and Kolatkar were seasoned swimmers and would swim laps. He’d often stop in the shallow end and give me tips and help me swim. I distinctly remember the time when my sister, who is about 5 years younger than me, was also standing in the shallow end and suddenly slipped. We all thought she had suddenly become brave enough to start dipping her head under water, where as in reality, she was just trying to regain her footing and stand back up. It was Jayesh who quickly swam past me and pulled her up, helping her stand back. He made sure she was ok, before coming over to me, said something funny, laughed and went back to his laps.

He always loved friends. In the seventh grade, we all went trekking to Choral, Patal Pani and Kalakund with our Physics teacher, Mr. N.C Suley. Mr. Suley had just joined our school that year, and when he went to marry the girl he had loved (she was his student in College, where he was a TA to the professor), Jayesh and Amit Khurana openly made jokes at his expense. On the trek, he was so relaxed there. I still have his snap sitting in the Choral River with Sudhir and Thakur. We ribbed him a lot about that snap, and he took it all in good stride, laughing at himself along with us. That same year, our close friends Pankaj and Pushpendra ended up having a rift and refused to speak with each other. Jayesh went out of his way to try and get them back together. He’d push them into the same team in soccer, basketball and was very thrilled to see them playing together. He’d often come to me and tell me what happened in the game and was really thrilled when they became friends again. That was typical of Jayesh.

Every time I visited Indore, he’d be amongst the happiest guys to come and meet me at every get together of the Daly College batch mates. I remember when I was visiting India in 2005, he came and hugged me when I met him at Parikshit’s house. In Dec. 2009 the last time I visited Indore, we also had Balvinder Singh visiting from Malaysia, Rajeev Sharma and Manoj Shekhavat were visiting from the US. Naim Khan was also meeting us after a nearly 25 years. There was a group of about 15 friends that got together with their families. We met in Velocity Complex, at a restaurant owned by our friend Sudhir. As soon as I entered, Jayesh came over to hug me. I noticed he had become even bigger, but so had his smile. He had lost more hair, but none of his joviality and humor. He was in peak form that day, so thrilled to be back with most of his childhood friends. I told him that he was starting to look like his dad – and in his typical fashion he responded, “Yaar, at least that means I am my dad’s son” and burst out laughing. That was typical Jayesh – at his best.  We all laughed, joked, drank, ate and remembered the good old days.

None of the get togethers with friends will ever be the same without Jayesh. We will miss him a lot and every meeting of Old Dalians will always bring his smiling face and jovial nature to our memories. Rest in peace my friend … I am sure you are keeping everyone smiling wherever you are.

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

Cricket – as I played it .. part one


In my teenage years, I swore I’d never do this – say that things were better in my days. However, I often find myself back to my cricket playing days. The world of cricket has changed a lot off late. Apart from the good old 5 day test match games, and the 3 day format, and the 50 over one day format; we now have a 20 over format too – and there are so many new rules. With so many different formats of the game nowadays, there is a lot to choose from today. BTW, for my American friends, who don’t understand cricket, it is a “bit” more complicated than Baseball and it has a REAL “world cup” – where, unlike the world-series in US sports, the matches are played between the top 14 teams from various countries of the world.

My earliest memory of the game is from 1969-70, when New Zealand was touring India and was playing a match in Indore, my home town. Medical college Indore had reserved a pavilion there, and my dad took me to see the 3 day game. I remember G.R. Vishwanath scored a century in that match and everyone around me was praising his game. So, I wanted to be like Vishwanath. I admired the running between the wickets and attributed the speed to the leg guards that the batsmen wore.  Those 3 days started a flurry of cricket activities in my neighborhood, and all the kids were playing cricket (there was no TV in those days – we actually got out of the house to play outdoor games with our friends).

Now my neighborhood was a great place for a kid to grow up. It was a large complex that used to be a hotel complex until the 1940s. The owner sold the place to a Bengali family (Deys), and moved to England. The place was right next to the A.B. Road in Manoramaganj and the new owners promptly converted the place into residential homes. There were about 20 families that lived in that complex of single story homes, with asbestos roofs. It was here that I learned my tolerance for all faiths and cultures – there was a Bengali family,  a Parsi family, three Christian families, a Punjabi family, a Muslim family, a Marathi family.,  Almost all families had kids about the same age, and we all got together to play in the evenings or over the weekends. There were family get together and events were celebrated together.  Anyway, that is for another write up.

Back to 1969…after the game with New Zealand ended (read the score card here), all the boys from the neighborhood would gather outside. There was a small yard between my house and that of a neighbor, where all the boys would gather to play the games. Money was always tight in those days for everyone – and no one had the cash to buy bats or balls. So we did the next best thing – we shared and improvised. I remember the time when no one had a tennis, rubber, cork or leather ball to play cricket – so we made one. We took a near-spherical pebble, surrounded it by lot of vase (which was the term for the fiber used to clean cars in the nearby car-truck garage), and then used strips/bands made from the tube of a cycle tire. The bat would often be the “Mogri”, which was used in all houses to clean clothes.  I was enamored by the game, and started playing it with full earnest. In my free time, when others were not playing cricket, I’d play alone. The homes had sloping asbestos roofs in those days, and I’d throw the ball on the roof, stand ready to hit it when it came down and practiced my shots. Other times, I’d put a ball in a sock, and hang it from a wooden rod outside the house and knock the ball around.

My dad saw my interest in the game. He had played for his school and college teams, and probably recognized the spark first. Or perhaps it was just his desire to get me to do things that I liked. So he got me my first cricket bat – a size 4 bat for a tennis ball. I loved it. Then when I was 9 years old, he enrolled me in the summer camp of Maharaja Yeshwantrao Cricket Club (MYCC), which ran the early morning nets in the Jawaharlal Nehru Stadium. The secretary of the club, Mr. Kakirde, was the father of a friend of my father, and kept an eye on me. I’d walk down there from my house – about 1 km away - and play in the nets from 7 AM to 9.30 AM, and then walk back. Sometimes, on my way back I’d stop in the Medical College, where my dad was a professor (a Reader in those days), and have the orderly (Ram Chandra) make me some Chai with condensed milk. I loved condensed milk so much, that I’d often sneak in and eat a few spoons of it from my Dad’s office fridge. He’d get furious when the aid would tell him that they were out of condensed milk, and would scold the aid – until the aid told him “Sir, Deepu Baba was here and he …”. I think he secretly loved that I liked the same things that he did.

In the first year, my coach was Sanjay Jagdale. He was one of the star players for the state Ranji trophy team and was called as Gattu (Hindi slang for Shorty) – event though he was 6’7” in height. He saw me play the first day and made me the captain of the net. It was in one of the net practices there in MYCC, that Major M.M. Jagdale, Sanjay’s dad who was then the Secretary of the State Cricket Board mentioned that he saw a spark and talent in me – enough to see me playing Test matches for India in a few years. The only hassle was that I was about 10 years old and too young to understand what he meant. But, that remark got the attention of a few coaches and I was moved to the nets of senior guys, and started playing with people who were already playing for the district and some for the state. In those days, the district was divided into 5 zones and they would play matches against each other in the MYCC ground. At the age of 11 years, I was assigned to the North Zone and ended up becoming one of their good bowlers.  In that year I made several friends here – guys like Narendra Bagtheria, Manzur Hassan, Bhagwan Das – all of whom played for the MP State Cricket team, and then guys like Amardeep Pathania, Sunil Asawa, Kamaljeet Anand, Raju Patel, Rajesh Khujneri, Salil & Nikhil Saxena, Ashish and Raja Raje -- to name a few.

Around this time, I was in the seventh grade and in the senior school in Daly College. We used to have regular sports on a daily basis and in the cricket season, we groups would play games by dividing the team. One of the first games I remember is with Mr.Arun Lahari as our staff monitor and guys like Pawan Kasliwal, Ravndra Sigh Dhillon and others playing with me.  As is the case in most schools, Daly College also had a nickname for every teacher. Mr. Lahri was called as “Bum”, probably because of the song that went “Bum ba-bum bum, bum Lahri….”… and Pawan would often speak out the nick name loudly on the field – something that Mr. Lahri would hear outside and pretend to get upset. Now that I think of it, I smile at the fun – but back then, it was scary. Anyway, some of the staff members noticed my game and that same year, I was asked to represent my House Cricket team. I remember that in the very first match, Ankur Sarkar and I scored a lot of runs (I think I got a fifty) and helped the team win. Mr. G.L Verma, the house master of Jawahar house, was thrilled. The next year, when I was in my 8th grade, I was asked to lead my house team. We won the tournament. I was applauded for my leadership, my field placement, my bowling and my batting (I think I scored well in almost all the games). Mr. Verma, called me out in the House meeting and praised me.

In the summer vacation of my 7th grade, MYCC selected me to be coached by Mr. P.k. Dharmalingam. Prior to that it was mostly my natural game, with some bits of training advice thrown in or what I learned by watching senior players. Dharmalingam actually taught us the basics of cricket – and he liked what he saw in my game.  I learned a lot from him, and Sanjay Jagdale.

In the 8th grade, I was appointed captain of the MYCC team to play against the Malhar Ashram cricket team.  It was a good experience and I learned a lot. That same year, I approached Mr. Salim Khan, the senior master and sports in-charge in Daiy College to set up a match against St. Paul’s. A few of my cousins studied there – and after a bit of convincing, I was allowed to approach St. Paul’s for a game. I rode my cycle to that school, and talked to Mrs. Noronha – this was something that had never been done and so, she was equally surprised. But finally, I was allowed to set up a game against the 8th grade of St. Paul’s. The teams met for a friendly game on the Bolia Ground of Daly College, and it was a good game. DC won the match, but more importantly, it had given me a good exposure.

In my 9th grade, I was selected to represent my School Cricket team. Sandeep Parekh was the captain. Daly College is one of the Premier Public Schools in India, modeled on the British System. They used to play Triangular Matches with two other public schools- Mayo College of Ajmer, and Scindia School of Gwalior. The way it worked was – There were three major sports – Field Hockey, Cricket and Soccer. Each school would host one sport in its season.  That year, Daly College hosted the Cricket teams. I wasn’t sure if I’d make it into the first eleven – and was pleasantly surprised that I was chosen.  I still remember the very first ball of that match that was bowled – I was fielding at third man, and the ball flew to me after first bounce. Yadav, the wicket keeper of Mayo was the batsman and went on to score a fifty. I remember the Mayo players very well – Sandu, Yadav and a young guy by the last name of Giri (later I found out that he was the grandson of the former president of India, V.V. Giri). Anyway, the Mayo team was shot out for 184 runs, I took two wickets (Uday Katoch and Buddhiraja), but we lost the game and the Triangulars as we lost the next game to Scindia too. Sandu was the Mayo College Captain and Vivek Singh was the Scindia School Captain. 

In that summer, I was back with Dharmalingam, who was then the national coach.  I learned a lot that year in an indoor camp. I was also being coached by Vasu Gangwani, who was one of the umpires in the Triangular games. He recognized me on the very first day in the nets and made me the captain of the Nets. When the school cricket season started, I was full of confidence. The school team remained the same as the previous year, as we added a new class for the 12th class. Kinjal Zaveri was the captain. Unfortunately, the team tried to experiment with my position in the batting order – and in one of the earlier games, I was asked to open against a team that had a bowler Manish Sharma, who was also the opening bowler for the State team. Well, that match cost me my confidence, especially after some of my team mates said a few nasty things to me too. Some people felt that my training in MYCC was costing me my game. I felt really low. Then one day, after school, I was talking to Mr. Dharmalingam and he offered to come to Dc and train the guys for a day. Well – it was accepted by Mr. Jagtap and Mr. Salim Khan  and I think the team had a good session with him. That year, I did not play in the Triangulars, which were in Mayo College, Ajmer – I was the 12th man and we lost to Mayo but won against Scindia. Sandeep Parekh played a remarkable innings against Scindia School. I got some of my confidence back later in the year when we played a friendly game and I scored some much needed runs. One of the memorable games was the inter-house matches between Jawahar and Ashok house – where I took the catch to dismiss Rajib Nadkarni, and helped in tying the game. Jawahar house became the overall house champion that year.

That year in the summers, I was selected to play for the state school team. We traveled to Jaipur to play there. The team captain was Amardeep Pathania and we had folks like Kailash Gupta, Vivek Singh (who was the Scindia School Captain) and Shabbir Ali. We played against UP schools team, which had 4 state level players. I was very impressed with the UP team when I found out that that several players in that team were actually part of the Sports College. Their main job was to be good in the game. They had a player (also a Bhatnagar), who could bowl the “Doosra” – at that time, no one had coined the word Doosra in cricket. On the second day, there was talk that Raj Singh Dungarpur, the National Selector was on the ground. He was from the State of Rajasthan, and was also an Alumnus of my school. UP had piled up a huge score the first day. Their captain and star player Syed Naqvi had scored a century and was still batting. My captain asked me to bowl the first over that day. In my first two overs, fielders like Kailash Gupta and Shabbir dropped catches that were skiers. When the same thing happened in my third over, I heard a shout of “well bowled Bhatnagar” from the Pavilion. I just saw a tall, well-dressed man standing and clapping. He was wearing a dark tie and had a few guys standing with him. Later in the lunch break, the same gentleman came over to meet the players and I was surprised to see my team’s manager running around playing Mr. Goodie all with him. He stopped near me and told me that I was bowling very well and was unlucky not get those guys out. Then he introduced himself as Raj Singh Dungarpur and said he was glad to see someone from his Alma Mater playing for the State Schools. Anyway, I bowled nearly 25 overs and we ended up losing the game to UP – by an innings and a few runs. But, I was glad to have met Raj Singh and his words of encouragement helped me immensely. We met several times after that, and he would always stop by and say hello. Thorough gentleman and a great man!

When my school season started, my coach Mr. Jagtap was happy that I had played for the state schools team, but wasn’t happy that I didn’t get the runs. He wanted me to be a successful batsman too. That year, I was in the 11th grade. Yogesh Garg became the captain of the school team. We had a new principal in the form of Mr. H.L. Dutta – who had come from Hyderabad Public School. He invited the Hyderabad Public School Team to visit us and play matches with us. We had the Hockey, Cricket, Basketball and Soccer teams visit us in early Aug. Aug was the time when we have Monsoons in India. It is not your average run-of-the-mill rainfall. The cricket ground was a mess and the pitch a dangerous one – totally underprepared.  The ball was flying all over the place. I bowled 15 overs and got 6 wickets for 29 runs. The HPS team was shot out for 150 runs and we thought we had a good chance. Well, we had a very tough time batting on that pitch. DC team was shot out for a paltry 29 runs, with only I scoring 11 runs. It was an embarrassing match – so much so that my friend Khaikalian wrote about it in my autograph book, just to rub it in.

Over the next few months, I established myself as a good all-rounder.  I was playing as the #4 batsman (batting 2 down) and was able to score in 40s and 50s in nearly every game. My confidence was back and I was taking wickets too. We participated in the first ever inter-school tournament in Indore and won that tournament. Just before the final game of that tournament, I remember biking alongside my friend, Yasmin, who was walking to her dance class – and getting stung by bees which were flying around. The funny thing was that not a single Bee stung Yasmin even once, while when I finally reached home, there were bees inside my shirt and I had a lot of stings in my back. I played the game with a lot of anti-histamines in my body. The Triangular that year was in Scindia School, Gwalior. The team was relying on me. Just before we left for Gwalior, we played a practice game against the Indore Colts, which was led by Pathania and had a few Ranji level state players. During that game, I was hit by a superfast delivery by Niranjan Shirke. To make matters worse, I was declared out LBW. Never to argue a call, I walked. It was my lowest score until then in the matches. We lost that game. The team was a bit shaken up. We left for Gwalior 2 days after that match, by bus on a rainy night, working our way through the traffic jam on AB Road, reaching Gwalior about 6 hours later than expected. We were all tired. We were set up to play the next day against Scinidhia School. Until then, we had been choosing the balls made by BDM, but for some reason we ended up choosing balls made by Recorder, which was what was used at the Test Match level, back then. We realized the difference during the game – the seam was different and our bowlers found it difficult to control the pitching. Our throws were perfect, but our fielding was poor – especially in the outfield, which was very rough. We gave a lot of overthrows too, because the ground was smaller. We lost both the games against Mayo and Scindia and were ridiculed. I still remember Mr. Dhir, the coach of Scinidhia School, making fun of Mr. Jagtap – telling him that he had only taught his players how to throw back to the wicket keeper. Poor Mr. Jagtap – he was smiling but I could see that he was very upset too. I made a silent promise to myself that I’d do my best to reverse this trend of losing games. 
 
A few weeks later, we had a practice game against Tata Leather Company. Yogesh Garg, our captain was injured and Rajib Goswami was asked to step up as captain. He was the other pace bowler. However, it was I who managed all field placements and bowling changes. Mr. Jagtap who was the umpire for the game, was very impressed with my control over the game. One of the Old Dalian (that is the term used for Alumni of Daly College) Narendra Singh Bidwal, who was also the captain of the Old Dalian’s team, watched the match from the pavilion. After the game, he gave me one of the best advices I have ever received – he told me to always look for strengths and weaknesses in the players. As a captain, it was my job to recognize the strengths or weaknesses and use them to my team’s benefit. It is something that I have never forgotten and still use it for my team’s benefit.

In the official match against the Old Dalians, I was the Vice Captain officially, while Rajib went out to toss. However, he told me to manage all the things on the field. The Old Dalian team had some star players of yesteryears, including 7 previous captains. We lost the toss and were asked to field first, much to my delight. I knew that the Old Dalian team had senior players who would find it difficult to field after lunch. Anyway, we got them out for 178 runs, with Sachindra Vyas and I doing most of the bowling and Vyas taking 5 wickets. I still remember catching Sandeep Parekh out in deep mid-wicket, and then taking the wicket of Diliip Singh of Banswara – getting him caught in the slips by Yuvraj Singh (Mr. Jagtap had jumped up with glee when Dilip was out, as he could be a match turner with his heavy hitting). We were thrilled with our show, but knew that the ODA bowling attack was very strong too. Vinod Narang and Kinjal opened the bowling for them and had 2 wickets in the first two overs. Sunil Gupta was bowled off a slow full toss to Vinod Narang, when he thought that Vinod was bowling him a beamer (I still rib him about that). I walked to the field, as I had most of that year, within the first three overs after having lost 2 quick wickets; I thought to myself that this was it. I was facing players that I had grown up admiring and I had a do my best to win. We lost one more wicket soon when Prakash Menon joined me. To make a long story short, we won the match by 7 wickets. I scored 98 runs and Prakash scored 49 runs - both of remaining unbeaten. I was tired but thrilled. We had won that trophy after nearly 9 years – with the present boys winning it last when Vinod Narang was the captain. Mr. Salim Khan and Mr. Jagtap were thrilled –they came to the dressing room and hugged me. Mr. Khan told me that it was one of the finest knocks he had seen in a long time – that was the highlight of my career, and a remark that I cherish forever. The ODA team members came over and congratulated me. The next day, I was awarded the school colors in the morning assembly.

In the summer vacations of the 11th grade, I gathered a few friends like Prakash, Sunil, Deepak, Yuvraj and started practicing in the nets at School. I decided against playing in interstate school tournament – against the wishes of the state team’s manager. My reasoning was that 12th grade was my senior year and I had to perform well in my studies, which had suffered off late due to my passion for cricket – my grades were just sufficient for me to pass the exams, whereas until the 10th  grade, I was considered as one of the bright students in my class. So I went to my Math teacher Mr. Hashmi, to take some private classes to help me finish the Calculus and Trigonometry portion of the 12th grade ahead of schedule. He was kind enough to oblige and I spent a couple of hours daily with him, trying to complete the course. It really helped me in the 12th. Had I played for the state schools that year, I’d have been made the captain of the state team – but it would have taken a lot of time from me. Instead, Prakash went to the state school team that year.

The Cricket Triangular in my senior year was in my school. It was also my 4th year in the school team and I was appointed the captain. I started the practice for the team with lot of rigorous training - -and a lot of emphasis on getting fit. In the rainy season, we’d run around the school campus on the tar roads, Practice bowling on the roads, practice our throws, and play indoor cricket. Of the 17 players that made the team, nearly 14 were day boarders. We played a lot of matches on Sundays – against local colleges, and clubs. I think in all, we played about 25 matches that season, and I scored over 1200 runs and took close to 90 wickets. Before the draw for the Triangular matches, I was asked if I had a preference to play on the first day and take a rest day before the final game. I declined and instead asked to play the last two days. Mr Salim Khan was surprised and asked me if I was sure – I was. My reasoning was that it would give me a chance to see both the opposing teams play at their best, and look for their strengths and weaknesses. The week before the tournament, Mr Jagtap and I sat down with the final 17 players and gave them some pep talk. I was surprised when he put me in front of the team and asked them if they had anything against me or wanted to play under a different captain or wanted me to do something different. Only Prakash said that he’d like me to control my temper on the field – and I realized that I’d been getting upset with the payers when they weren't performing at their peak. I made a promise to them that I’d not lose my cool on the field ever after that. I think that feedback from Prakash has really helped me in my life and I have attempted to keep my cool whenever things have started going wrong. Ever since, I always step back when things haven’t gone right, and try looking at the bigger picture.

I went to receive the teams as they came over the weekend. Sunil and I rode on his dad’s  Lambretta. I still remember Mr. Salim Khan stopping us and telling us not to ride the scooter. I spent hours and hours going over my plans of making field arrangements and bowling changes. On the first day of the Triangular match, Mayo played against Scindia. I sat with most of players near the sight screen, taking notes and observing every move of the batsmen and bowlers. I actually prepared notes on their strengths and weaknesses. Mayo won against Scindia -- one of their players, Martand, scored a fifty and in typical Mayo style, showed off his exuberance by throwing his gloves in the air. DC was up the next day, against Scindhia school. I only remember that match vaguely - just that we got them out very early and then after a rough start, we went through and won the game with ease. I actually experimented with my bowling attack, even giving Deepak and Sunil a couple of overs to bowl. In the end, I got 3 wickets, Rodney got a couple and Sachindra Vyas was also successful. On the batting side, I was lucky to get some runs, and it gave me some confidence.

We were playing Mayo College in the last match. I spent a sleepless night, tossing and turning – this was what I had prepared for all of the past twelve months. Mayo team was very confident, even though one of their star spinners, Mir,  had to leave to take some exam.  Giri was now their captain, and we had played 4 Triangular against each other. He was a really cocky guy, but I guess that is how all the Mayurians (as the students in Mayo College are/were called) were trained to be. We went out to toss, and before I could take out my coin, he took out a ten paise coin and asked me what I wanted. Now, I had enough experience with a ten paise coin to realize that 75% of the times, it would land as a tail for some weird reason (you may not believe that – but I used to keep flipping one while sitting in my chair) – so I called tail. And, it landed as I called. I took off my cap, and moved my fingers through my hair to signal to my team that I won the toss – and a cheer went through the pavilion. I was amused that people had already learned my signals by then. Sunil and Pradeep ran down to get ready to open, as they knew that I’d opt to bat first. I told Giri that I’d let him know in a few minutes what I’d decide and he seemed rattled. We exchanged the list of first Eleven players. The Umpires were Narendra Bagtheria (who was a top notch left arm spinner in the country and bowled for my State team) and Uday Singh.
As we started the game, the pavilion was filled to capacity with present Dalians, Old Dalians, Staff Members and support staff. Some of the teams that had helped us prepare by playing friendly games, also came to watch the match. As was the norm, we lost Pradeep in the first over and then Yuvraj in the second over to Raja. As I walked out, a very loud cheer went up in the crowd – but I felt nervous. The Mayo players crowded around me and cheered their bowler, Raja. The Very first ball I played was a bouncer, which rose to my chest from good length, and I played it defensively to the covers. Sunil walked to me from the other end and we talked as the field changed. I told him that I’d support him as I got settled in. However, it took me only 3 more deliveries, before I got into run. Before I realized, I was in my 40s and striking the ball well. The Mayo field was scattered and they were looking anxious. At one point, the umpire asked their captain, Giri, to stop wasting time on the field and he complained to me. I had to tell him to relax and get on with the game. Giri, their captain, brought himself on to bowl, and with a packed leg side field, started bowling round the wicket to me. Many of the deliveries would have been called wide by a big margin in today’s cricket, but back then, they were considered valid. Anyway, I remember going for a shot and missing the shot. There was a loud nick, and the ball landed in the keeper’s gloves. I walked even before the umpire said anything – with my score at 48. Sunil on the other end was playing on 15 odd runs, and I told him to take control. As I walked, Giri was heard telling his player that he had been trying to bowl that delivery for a long time - -and I couldn’t help but get upset with myself for not connecting that shot, which deserved to be hit for a four, if not a six. Prakash walked out and I stopped to chat with him – telling him to focus and play the innings of his life. Mr. Salim Khan came down to the dressing room and was furious with me for throwing away my wicket.  He point blank told me that I’d be to blame if we lost the game, for playing that reckless shot. Fortunately, both Sunil and Prakash played well and scores into their 40s. DC team was all out for 170 runs – not a large score, but it was something we could try to defend. 

We started our bowling after a light lunch (I refused to let my players eat a lot –which upset Rodney, who was getting ready to tear into the delicacies that were served), with Kacholia starting from the Junior School end. He was fast, but tended to be erratic – and I wanted to let the Mayo batsmen feel just a bit over confident thinking he was our main bowler. His very first ball was a very short delivery, which surprised the opening batsman, Karul, who managed to hit it towards midwicket. I ran from Mid On to field it – I saved a boundary, but it yielded a couple of runs. The next one was hit directly to me with great force, but I managed to stop it. Rodney started the bowling from the other end, and got us the breakthrough in his 4th over by getting Raja out. Since each bowler was only allowed to bowl nine overs each, I told him that the next over would be his last, even if he got another wicket. I continued with Kacholia from the other side right upto his 7th over. I brought myself to bowl from the Staff Quarters end, replacing Rodney. I can still hear the cheer from the crowd. Vijay Agar was sitting with the scorers, and his job was to tell me after each over how many overs that bowler had bowled. I got Karul out leg before on my third delivery. The crowd was ecstatic. Martand (Or Marty) was the next guy to walk in – I had seen him play against Scindia and he had scored a fifty. However, I had also seen that he had a weakness - when he hit the ball towards covers, it would be an uppish stroke and there a good chance to get him caught with some intelligent field placement. I placed Sunil at covers and moved Pradeep in deep Extra cover. Kacholia was replaced in the bowling attack by Sachindra Vyas. I directed Vyas to keep the attack on the offside, and bowl fuller. And Marty took the bait – however, he hit the first two deliveries towards the boundary. It didn’t help that Sunil was slow to react, as the ball raised past him. Kacholia and Prakash came to me and suggested that I put Kacholia in place of Sunil – it was a good suggestion and I followed the advice. Kacholia’s strength was that he was an ace sprinter and had great reflexes. And he caught the very next shot from Martand – just inches from the ground. We were all thrilled, shocked and ecstatic – our ploy had worked. I told the team not to relax and stay on the alert. We were still away from victory. Giri walked out to bat and I asked the team to make sure that we got him out too. My next over was the game changer. Giri was on the non-striker’s end. I bowled to the batsman, who was obviously a junior guy, as he was in awe of Giri. The batsman missed the ball, and it landed in Prakash’s hands. Prakash missed catching it, and the ball fell behind him. Giri thought the ball had gone way behind him, called for a run and ran towards the other end. For a second I thought Prakash was shocked that someone would do that – and as I shouted for him to throw the ball, he picked it up and broke the wickets on the striker’s end. Giri was out – and he walked dejected to the pavilion, cursing himself loudly. When he reached the pavilion, he threw the bat into his team and cursed loudly – drawing an immediate reprimand from Mr. Salim Khan. In my very next over, I ran out another batsman when Matkar threw the ball towards me from square leg – he was placed to field there, as he was a left hander and I thought it would be easier for him to throw balls coming on his left side. We were on a roll – I took 1 wicket, Sachindra took 3 wickets and Anmol took 3 wickets. We got Mayo out under 90 runs, and we won the match. I still remember Kacholia running towards me shouting “Bhattu we did it” and I just stayed calm, smiling ear to ear, but calm. Even back then, I believed in showing less emotions when losing, and even lesser emotions when winning. We all hugged each other, and the team wanted me to lead back. We instead agreed to walk back in one file – with our hands on each other’s shoulders. There were fireworks all around – the support staff was going nuts. We got a standing ovation – and there were celebrations for several days after that. My Principal, Mr. Dutta, came and patted my back as did Mr. Salim Khan. Only my coach, Mr. Jagtap was missing – he had been sitting for the past 3 hours under the score board, watching our every move and guiding us – now he had gone home. I am positive that he had become too emotional to face us. We got to see a different side of him later that night, when the team was invited for an impromptu dinner at the principal’s house. Several of the present boys and girls came over to congratulate me and the team. It was easily one of the best moments of my life – as I wrote to my dad, who was posted in Gwalior then. We had won after nearly 10 years – and it was an awesome feeling. The celebrations lasted for a few months -- Principal's dinners. I treated the team to a grand dinner party at Apsara and a lot more...

We lost the match against the old Dalians that year – I was upset, because I was expecting to win. Pawan Sharma was the only batsman to score 22 runs in that game. It was just a bad performance from us – and as Narendra Baghteria, who was the umpire in the game, explained that it was difficult to get the same peak performance which we showed in the Triangular that year. I won the second College Colors that year and also the best batsman award for the second year running. Jawahar house won the Inter House Cricket matches again -- and as per the tradition that allowed a junior (with a high probability to become the school captain next year) to lead, I asked Prakash to lead the Jawahar House team against Ashok House and Sunil to lead against Vikram House. Matkar was allowed to lead in the final game against Rajendra. I also played one last match that year against a group of Old Dalians and remember coaching Paul Barua on how to bowl with less speed and more accuracy -- he was a good fast bowler, but lacked the accuracy.
Overall - it was a very satisfying year -- something I remember so well even today.

Saturday, November 07, 2009

Water Harvesting in Indore

The recent spate of floods in India has become a cause for concern for many in the stricken areas. While there are floods in some parts of the country, there are any parts that are facing acute water shortage.

I remember when I was a kid, there was a lot of rainfall (average was 44 inches per annum) and there was never a shortage of water. We would run in the monsoon rains and play. We’d make little paper boats (I got my grandmother to make me some) and watch them float into the flowing water. It was fun activity for all the kids in the neighborhood. I still have photographs that show that the water level in the Khan river was right up to the road level near Navlakha and that lakes like Pipliyapala, Bilawali and Sirpur, were full. So what has gone wrong now, that we are facing such water shortage issues. My personal opinion is that we have ruined the water supply supply system ourselves by the lack of planning and our greed to build and usurp land. Here is why:

About 40 years ago, I remember that the roads in Indore had little “Naalis” on the side. These were like the tiny drains on the side of the roads to drain the access water. These then dumped the water into the creeks (called Naalas) flowing in the city, which eventually met the Khan river or were emptied into the city lakes. Since there was a lot of open land, water would seep into the ground and replenish the underground water. And there were hundreds of thousands of trees, mainly in the catchment areas.

Now we have done away with the Naalis by the roads. The creeks are filled with dirt or are covered by land usurpers and homes have been built on those. Basically, we have cut the capillaries and arteries of the supply system. There are fewer open land slots. As a result, all the rain water is wasted. And of course, there are no trees left in the entire city -- let alone in the catchment areas. Can you imagine, even this year Indore received about 35 inches of rain and there is a short supply? Compare that with places in California or even the village of Anna Hazare, which only get about 7 inches of rain in the entire year, but is totally self sufficient in terms of water.

In California, there is a lot of greenery in the suburbs. The reason is that the government has mandated grey water be harvested and used for watering the grass and plants in the local gardens. Drains collect the rain water from roof tops and from the sides of the road and this is then sent to local creeks. Basically, water is harvested. Anna Hazare has done the same thing in his tiny village in Maharashtra.

It is still not too late. We can recover from this mess that we have created ourselves. All it needs is some collective will power and good leadership.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Shivangi -- grown up and in college





This one is something that was started by my wife, Nandita, and I have added a few lines.


My elder daughter, Shivangi, started college this week.


It has made me realize how time flies. It makes me realize how limited that duration is, when we have our children to ourselves. Soon all we're left with is all those mental vignettes and snapshots of events...I feel proud to see her blossoming into a confident young woman. Of course there will be celebrations of achievements and culminations of years of hard work - but, I'd always think of her as my little daughter.


I remember the day she was born, about eighteen years ago. We were all crowded around the doors of the Operation Room in Greater Kailash Nursing Home in Indore. After a long night of pains, my wife and I finally came to the hospital. Dr. Ahilya Mukherji was the doctor and Nandita's childhood friend, Anjali, was the assistant. After several hours of wait, they finally decided to take her in the OR to do a C-section, as the baby was getting under stress. I remember the way my father-in-law sat in a corner in the room and prayed, my dad talked to other doctors in the hospital and I paced around the floor outside the OR. At about 7.20 PM, Anjali came out and announced that every thing was ok and we had a baby girl. My first question was about my wife's health and then I went in to see my wife and my baby. There she was -- all wrapped in a bundle, quiet and sleeping. I picked her up gently and clumsily and gently kissed her forehead.


I remember the anxiety when on the third day, I came to the hospital to find her with tubes and under UV light. But it was a minor hiccup. We brought her home soon and things became a blur of activities. As my wife and I had decided, the first child was to be named with the letter S and we chose the name Shivangi - after the name of Lord Shiva, based on a dream I had had (that is a write up for another blog). Shivangi soon became the hub of all activity. She demanded attention and wouldn't let me talk to anyone if she was in the room -- whether she was eating, or drinking milk from her bottle. She'd make this weird grunting noises when I started to say something to anyone else in the room. I also can't forget the countless nights I spent walking in my room with her in my arms, in the middle of the night, so that she could get some sleep. She was adored by one and all -- and was the apple of my dad's eyes. I could sense the attachment in both their eyes when they spent the time together -- so much so that for a long time, Shivangi claimed him as only her grand-dad and Neha, my younger daughter, called him as Didi's (elder sister) grand dad.


She was smart, sensitive and perceptive even as a baby. I clearly remember her first day at the informal pre-school/Day Care behind my house, where she was the only child who was crying when it was time to come home. Then she started a formal pre-school by the name of Mini Land and once again, she frolicked in without a backward glance at us. Her eagerness to go to school persisted next year when she went to Mini Heights where she continued to amaze us with her brilliance. I also remember, that she went to give her interview for the elite private school for Kindergarten. I was so apprehensive when they took her away in a different room, but she just skipped in to match the teacher's step. When they had finished testing her reading/writing and recognition skills and it was time for her to leave, she was adamant that she had not tried all the stations they had set up. We were told that we could just pay the fees at the office and not wait for the final selection list to be posted.


I believe her endearing nature made her the teacher’s pet. She excelled at everything, sports, arts, singing, studies and making friends. I also remember the time we were called by one of her teachers and told that we should not teach her ahead as she gets bored and sits staring out of the window, chair turned back to the blackboard. When we were skeptical of what she could do, the teacher asked Shivangi to write on the blackboard and she promptly did that , explaining as she did that this was so simple. The day that she boarded the school bus for the first time, is still clearly embedded in my memory. My wife stood there, visibly upset, but Shivangi was beaming as the bus conductor took her in and, by the return trip, had made friends with the driver and was already commanding the seat closest to him. She was super excited as she told us about her fantabulous day, and never once said that she missed home. She loved to go to school so much so that one day she ran out incompletely dressed and actually went to school like that.


I remember the time she visited the hospital when Neha was born -- all of 15 months old. She was awfully quiet when she walked in the room. She just sat near Nandita, looking at her and then the new baby. But she quickly adapted, and when we brought Neha home, Shivangi would often push Neha's stroller when we went for walks. They have grown up together into great friends, talking care of each other and ready to support each other. Shivangi always showed deep affection for her younger sister, she never showed any sibling jealousy and willing shared most everything. Her academic life has followed the same high achievement trajectory laced liberally with arts, music , sports and friends. Though, she has given up formal piano lessons, but I still hear her play. She has given up tennis lessons but luckily has been selected to play in her College Tennis Team. She has given up art as a subject, but just last week, she spent a long time in making an oil painting that she gifted to her piano teacher. She is now driving herself, compared to the previous modes of walking holding my hand, walking by herself, auto rikshaw, school bus, and sitting in my car. I will no longer see her waiting to be picked up by me, rather she will get out from her car and stride confidently in.


The last 4 years were devoted towards reaching this goal and now that it is here, I have several feeling. There is however, no feeling of loss, 'cause I have not lost anything. I feel thrilled to see her just the way I had dreamed her to have grown, and yet I know that this is just a beginning of a new journey. It is just end of one chapter for now. There is more to come....